Season 4  Episode 13: From Pain to Empathy: The Deepened Compassion in Trauma Survivors

In this episode of You Are Not Your Trauma™ we discuss how enduring personal challenges can profoundly deepen our capacity for empathy. Our guest, Candice Hayes, shares her remarkable journey of balancing life as a mother, entrepreneur, and mental health advocate. We explore the transformative power of pain, how it enhances our ability to connect with others, and the importance of balancing empathy with self-care.

Candice Hayes is the creator of Candys Candles and the author of the handbook “We Cleaned Our Home Yesterday.” Her personal experiences with mental health advocacy have led her to create The Hope Journal, aimed at supporting mental well-being through various thoughtful products.

Candice Hayes has navigated the waters of life with grace and determination, a journey marked by 27 years of marriage to her husband, Jarius Hayes, and enriched by the joys and challenges of raising three children, including a son-in-law, and doting on three grandchildren. Her professional path boasts a 16-year journey as a janitorial service provider renowned for its eclectic clientele, ranging from sports legends in the NFL and NBA to prestigious entities like banks, retail giants, and even technological innovators such as Facebook at their Meta Data Center project in Huntsville, Alabama. Fuelled by her love for cleaning and organization, Candice authored a handbook titled “We Cleaned Our Home Yesterday,” aimed at helping others cut down on their weekly cleaning tasks. The handbook, available for purchase on Amazon, is a testament to her expertise and passion for creating efficient, clean living spaces. In a passionate commitment to environmental stewardship and mental well-being, Candice also birthed Candys Candles, a company dedicated to designing phthalate-free, eco-friendly, and vegan candles and wax melts, designed to infuse any atmosphere with calmness and peace. However, it’s her personal journey as a mother, especially navigating the complex landscape of mental health with her youngest son, that has deeply shaped her purpose. This experience spotlighted the critical need for awareness, support, and compassion within the realm of mental wellness, inspiring her to conceive The Hope Journal, an initiative that extends beyond the written word to encompass candles, affirmation cards, and self-care apparel, all symbolizing hope and the importance of mental self-care. Her affiliations with impactful organizations such as Nareb, where she serves on the executive board; the Off the Field NFL Wives Association; and the Black Chamber of Commerce have enriched her mission, connecting her with communities and individuals who share a vision for a more understanding and compassionate world. Moreover, Candice forthcoming contribution to a Mental Health Anthology, “Voices of Wellness” alongside a group of nine other authors, set to be published this May, marks a significant milestone in her advocacy journey. Within this collaborative effort, she shares the challenges and triumphs of supporting a loved one’s mental health journey, offering insight and guidance to others navigating similar paths. Social Media Handles : Personal Facebook Page Candice H Hayes Facebook Conversation with Candice Facebook Candys Candles Instagram Candy’s Candles Collection Website:

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